Saturday, October 16, 2010

Step 1: Admitting you have a problem.


Addicion. Family troubles. Relationship issues. Trouble at home. Negative body image. Low self-esteem.


Problems that people can face are endless. Many times, we chose to face our weaknesses or challenges alone. Without a doubt, this can be beneficial as long as problems are being faced and dealt with. But often, some may rather sweep things under the rug and put on a brave face. Yup, you guessed it, this is me. I would rather force a smile on my face then to let others know something is truely bothering me. Lately, thanks to a few close friends, I have begun to question my tactics I use when dealing with problems.


Lately, I have found that problems/issues are put to rest more quickly and effciently if they are faced head on. It makes it easier to continue one's growth as a person. A few tips to help with facing your own insecurities from my own findings and others:


1. Define or pinpoint what is bothering you.

2. Ask some BIG questions. (Why does this bother me? Who cause it? When did it begin? Who else does this effect? Who's my support group? How can it be fixed?)

3. Work towards your solution positively. (Talk it out calmly, work out to relieve some of the stressed it causes, write about it in a journal, etc.)

4. Get help if needed.- Never think you are alone. Confide in friends, family, or religion that can offer advice or comfort in a matter. If you feel like this is not an option, seek professional help. Therapists may be intimidating but studies show how useful they are and they really do help people everyday.

5. Be patient. - Some things take time to heal. Look for small progression along the way to keep you motivated and hopeful.

6. In the end, REFLECT. When the problem is finally in the past, look back on how much progress you have made! Remember what it felt like to struggle, that way if you ever face another big problem you know you have what it takes to fight back, and win.


I hope that if you have any current struggles that this post can relate to you and encourage you to be brave and work toward a solution.
I owe who I am to my parents, grandparents, and my best friends because they have such wonderful advice and give me the support the I need when times get rough. <3

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